Scott and Patrick did not get this movie. John and Flor are very human. John is an introvert who is scared to confront his wife. He is shown to be a good father but not much of a husband. Flor is an illegal alien. She has pride and is very insecure about what John and Deb give her daughter.
John and Flor “get” each other. Both worry about their own children, or as John put it, “Worrying about your kids is sanity, and being that sane can drive you nuts.” The movie shows a lot of Flor’s relationship with her daughter. I wish it showed more of John with his kids. John’s daughter is an emotionally engaging character but gets little screen time. His son has such a small role that I wonder why his character was in the movie at all.
The point of Spanglish is that two people, who barely speak the same language, can understand each other in ways that other people, who do speak the same language, do not. John and Deb have been married for years but they have different parenting techniques. Deb runs while John cooks. Deb shops for their daughter while John works with her on her homework. When Deb has an orgasm, it has nothing to with John even being in the room, let alone underneath her. John and Flor are surrounded by people who do not understand them. Look how John acts at work. One girl flirts insistently while a guy is just using him as a ladder to success. John just wants to cook. Neither his wife nor coworkers understand him.
John and Flor communicate with sometimes few words. Note the scene where Flor tells John they should not drink Vodka so as to have a clear head. John does not ask why and Flor comments on him understanding why without asking.
Sure John and Flor are the good guys in the movie but I don’t hold that against them. In fact, they only appear to be so nice because, as John puts it to Deb when she asks, “Are you really that much nicer than me?” He responds, “Well you really don’t set the bar very high.”